Why do people get “stuck”, socially?
Sometimes it’s because they don’t see the systems that exist beneath the rules they’ve been taught.
They may have been taught that they have to take turns in conversation, but they may not know that reacting to what their conversational partner just said is their first job in their turn, and then they are expected to expand on it by asking a question or making an on-topic comment. They may not know that they need to balance their asking and telling, and that most of their questions should wonder about the other person. These skills (and more!) establish rhythm and balance that make the conversation flow and make the partner want to keep coming back for more conversation.
Or maybe, as a young learner, they have not yet figured out that watching others and joining them can be fun – it seems like something you know or don’t know, but there are actually skills that underpin the ability to do this.
If you don’t know the skills under the social skills, then you’re in danger of getting stuck. That’s why we focus on the systems that make social skills work for them, providing visuals and structure to help individuals make leaps ahead.
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